Oh my god I cannot believe it! MY son is not invited to the birthday party!!!! I just found out that his classmate is having a birthday party and her mom has the audacity NOT to invite my son!!! What is she thinking?
Now, don’t ask me how I found out she’s having a birthday party. It’s not as if she handed out invitations to all the kids in front of us. It’s not as if she did a Facebook invitation for all to see. No, I just over heard two moms whispering about it. OK, fine I didn’t overhear them, I was snooping. I saw them whispering in the corner and I really wanted to know what they were saying. So I pretended to go through my son’s backpack just to get close enough to hear them. Actually, it really wasn’t MY son’s backpack, but what difference does it make how I heard them? The important thing is that there is a birthday party coming up and MY son is not invited. My cute, adorable, sweet little second grader is not included. OK fine, most of the grade is not included and it seems like it is a small party with only a handful of kids. But why MY kid?
You know what, I am going to go up to that mom and give her a piece of my mind. Doesn’t she think this will hurt MY child’s feelings? What if he finds out about it? What if he asks me why he’s not invited? What if they do something really cool and MY kid misses out? What if the goodie bag is awesome and we don’t get one? This is not right!! As the mama bear of my family, I am going to march right over to her and let her have it. In fact, I think I am going to have a conversation with the school principal about it too. They should really implement a policy REQUIRING parents to invite all the kids to all the birthdays. And there should even be a committee of parents that monitor this and reviews infractions. What kind of world are we raising our children in if we let them think that they can leave people out? This is not fair, and children need to learn from a young age that they must include everyone in everything! In fact, I think it’s tantamount to bullying. Just you watch lady, I am going to have a birthday party bigger and better than yours and I am going to leave your kid out too!!! Tit for tat.
But come to think of it, we are not even available that weekend. We’ve got a soccer game; a family brunch and we are supposed to meet some friends for dinner with the kids. Plus, we go to enough birthday parties as it is; so this will be one less gift I have to buy. Maybe it’s not SO important for my child to be invited to EVERY party. I guess I can’t monitor everything that goes on for the rest of his life. At some point I am going to have to back off and let his social life take its own course.
But what do I say to him if he finds out about it? He is going to be so disappointed. How do I help him through this disappointment? I suppose getting him through this setback is more important than fighting every battle for him. At some point, he is going to realize the world does not revolve around him, and that these types of letdowns are a part of life. I don’t even know if he really likes this kid. So I have a decision to make…I can either be that crazy mom that pushes her child into every situation, or I can stand back and let life take its course.